DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend has gone off sex because I put on three stone over the pandemic.
He admitted he no longer finds me attractive, even though he still loves me and wants to be with me.
I am 34, he is 36, we’ve been together for six years and have a four-year-old son.
I always used to be slim but, at the start of the lockdowns, I got made redundant. I began comfort-eating out of depression and boredom.
The fatter I got, the less sex we had.
And for the past year, my boyfriend hasn’t made a move at all.
He used to jump on me at every chance. Now, I’m lucky if I get a peck on the cheek.
He uses every excuse under the sun – being tired, our son over-hearing, having a muscle strain.
When I finally broke down about it and asked what the problem was, he confessed he fancied me more when I was slimmer.
Now I’m working hard to lose weight by eating more healthily and exercising.
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I’m doing it for myself, not for my boyfriend.
But I no longer feel good enough for him, and I’ve lost all my confidence.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your boyfriend’s brutal honesty must hurt deeply.
But he does want to make the relationship work.
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