DEAR DEIDRE: I WOULD love to have sex with my wife, even though I have incurable cancer.
We haven’t been intimate for the last five months, since I got my terminal diagnosis and this is really getting me down.
I know it would be so wrong to force my wife to have sex with me, but I miss it so much. I am 65 and she is 60.
We have been together for 35 years and we generally have a great relationship, except when it comes to the bedroom.
We both love one another deeply and she has been really good in looking after me.
We are tactile with one another and kiss and cuddle all the time but that is as far as it goes.
My wife says she does not feel sexual, whereas my feelings for her are the same as when we first started our lives together all those years ago.
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DEIDRE SAYS: The sort of intense anxiety your wife may be feeling often shuts down sex drive.
While she may not feel sexual, you must understand that does not mean she is rejecting you.
Tell her you love her and how much you miss the intimacy you used to share.
She may be scared that sex is risky for your health and may find it difficult being both a carer and partner.
Kissing and cuddling, or simply lying close together, can help you connect intimately.
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