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Throuple welcomes son after one woman miscarried

Woman who formed a throuple with high school sweethearts gives birth to her first child – after learning she was pregnant on the same day her partner miscarried her child

  • Destiny Griffin, 24, from California, welcomed her first child, a son named Asmodeus ‘Momo’ Reign Valhalla, in November 2020 
  • The father of her child is Robert McCoy, also 24, who formed a polyamorous triad with Destiny and his high school sweetheart Victoria Gibson, 25
  • Robert and Victoria have been together since 2012, and were monogamous up until 2018 when he met Destiny at work 
  • The couple sparked an instant attraction so Robert introduced Destiny to Victoria, and the two women also formed romantic feelings for one another 
  • Robert, Destiny, and Victoria decided to start a family in 2019, and Victoria was the first to get pregnant, however she miscarried her baby on January 29, 2020
  • In a bittersweet twist, Destiny learned that she was pregnant on the same day, and on November 1, she welcomed the throuple’s son Momo
  • Destiny and Robert are both working, while Victoria is a stay-at-home mother to their son Momo 

A California throuple have welcomed their first child together – after a bittersweet celebration that saw one of the women in the relationship discover she was pregnant on the same day that the other miscarried her child.    

Destiny Griffin, 24, welcomed her son in November 2020, two years after she met and fell in love with childhood sweethearts Victoria Gibson, 25, and Robert McCoy, 24, who had been together for six years when the trio first met. 

Victoria and Robert met when they were teenagers at a local skatepark in 2012, and quickly started a relationship – which they then expanded to include Destiny after she and Robert formed an attraction to one another at work.   

Family: A California throuple have welcomed their first child together – after one of the women learned she was pregnant on the same day her partner miscarried 

Fresh start: High school sweethearts Robert McCoy (center) and Victoria Gibson (right) have been together since 2012, and they welcomed Destiny Griffin (left) into their romance in 2018

Bittersweet: The trio started trying for a baby in 2019, and Victoria (right) got pregnant soon after, but miscarried in January 2020 – on the same day Destiny found out she was expecting

Robert introduced Destiny to Victoria and the three began hanging out together. They realized they had romantic feelings for one another and decided to become a closed triad in August 2018.

Baby boy: Destiny gave birth to the throuple’s son, Asmodeus ‘Momo’ Reign Valhalla on November 1, 2020

Their love for each other has grown deeper over the years and the trio decided in November 2019 that they wanted to take the next step in their relationship and start a family together. 

Initially, the trio was worried that they wouldn’t be able to afford a child – particularly because they had just moved – however they decided that they would do whatever it took to have children together.  

After three months, Victoria fell pregnant and the three were overjoyed, but sadly, on January 29, 2020 she found out that she had miscarried. Although it was a solemn day for their relationship, in a bittersweet turn of events, Destiny found out she was pregnant on the same day – which caused overwhelming emotions.

Destiny’s pregnancy was a roller coaster of emotions, with highs and lows on all sides as they were still dealing with Victoria’s miscarriage and had fears that the same would happen again. 

However, they knew that to provide mentally and emotionally for the baby, they needed to work on themselves and get prepared for what was to come. 

The three began getting excited for their new arrival, as the anticipation of what was to come outweighed the worries they had and on November 1, 2020, they all gathered in the hospital room together and welcomed Asmodeus ‘Momo’ Reign Valhalla into the world. 

‘We talked about starting a family beforehand and it was Robert who brought it up – there were slight mixed reactions on everyone’s part but we decided to push forward and start a family,’ said Victoria.

‘I was the first to become pregnant, but sadly miscarried the same day we figured out Destiny was pregnant. It was a very bittersweet moment and took a bit to handle so many emotions. 

‘Destiny gave birth to Asmodeus “Momo” Reign Valhalla on November 1, 2020 and we wanted a name that sounded very powerful and moving, while also being unique and one of a kind.’ 

Since having a baby, the trio says they are the closest they have ever been, and have found themselves having more moments bonding with each other over the baby, as well as appreciating the free time they have together more. 

‘Having three parental figures is nice, but none of us have any other children, so it’s hard to know if it’s truly easier or harder – we make the best of what we can though,’ Victoria explained. 

Memories: Both Robert and Victoria were able to be in the hospital with Destiny while she was in labor

Special: The throuple say that having a child has brought them so much closer, providing them with a new opportunities to bond 


Unique: ‘This is not how I imagined life, yet now that it is here, I can’t imagine anything different,’ Victoria said of the throuple’s unconventional romance 

‘Destiny is now back to work part time and Robert works full time. So in the mornings, I will watch Momo until Destiny is off, then they both will take care of him for the remainder of the day. 

‘Once Robert gets home, he helps as much as he can before we try to lay Momo down for the night and we all try to find time for our relationship in between baby naps and when the grandparents come to watch him. 

‘Our families were very excited when we told them and we did this by making picture frames to put an ultrasound picture in, with a quote [that said], “he or she, grandparent to be” and there were plenty of joyful tears and pure anticipation for the months and years ahead.

‘Now they’ve got a grandchild, we are sure they couldn’t be any happier. Momo was born during the pandemic, so only the three of us were ever allowed to be in the hospital, but the grandparents and Robert’s sister drove two-hundred miles to wait in the parking lot for support and excitement, where they waited for two days and two nights.

‘Since having the baby, we have had a lot more bonding moments through the baby and the small times we have together are a lot more appreciated.

‘Trying to find roles to fill is just as easy, as it is hard – of course there are times where one may need a break or another is ready to have some time with him, but at the end of it all, Momo decides who he wants to be with and what he wants to do. 

Happiness: Victoria says the throuple has been overwhelmed with positive comments online, where they document their romance in the hope of destigmatizing throuples 

Message: ‘We don’t have any particular message to convey through our family structure, but we hope for justice, peace, and equality here within the US,’ she said 

‘We are definitely still working out a few routines, but he is growing and changing so fast that we are almost changing things daily.’ 

Since having their baby, they have received mostly positive comments that are from a place of support and a lot more people are focused on their baby, rather than their relationship.

‘This is not how I imagined life, yet now that it is here, I can’t imagine anything different. The thought of a closed poly triad family unit is beautiful to me. I enjoy the idea of family and lots of it,’ said Victoria.

‘We now live in Sacramento, California away from family and friends, which has been a bit of an adventure moving away and starting a family, but nonetheless has been a beautiful experience.

‘We hope to move out of California in the future and move to somewhere more green and laid back.

‘We don’t have any particular message to convey through our family structure, but we hope for justice, peace, and equality here within the US.

‘We want equality for all, including freedom to love for ourselves and others in the polyamorous community.’

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