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When you\u2019re in a serious relationship, it should go without saying that you\u2019re supposed to involve your partner in big decisions. <\/p>\n
Especially when it comes to selling the house you\u2019ve both been living in.<\/p>\n
For one person, it apparently did need saying, because they\u2019ve landed in some pretty hot water with their wife after doing just that.<\/p>\n
Taking to Reddit, they explained: \u2018My wife and I have been married for many years, but before we got married, I had built up a substantial wealth. When we got married, I opted for a prenuptial agreement and complete separation of assets. She also had a significant pre-marital wealth.<\/p>\n
\u2018Besides the house we currently live in, I still own a beautiful apartment in the same city that I usually rent out, but it\u2019s currently vacant.<\/p>\n
\u2018Over the past two years, we\u2019ve had many discussions about moving to a smaller town and getting a house near the beach. Two months ago, we bought the house for our upcoming move. We\u2019ve already made the renovations we wanted, bought furniture, and will be moving into the new house soon.\u2019<\/p>\n
So far, so normal.<\/p>\n
The poster went on: \u2018Since we won\u2019t be living in this city anymore, I didn\u2019t see a reason to keep the house we currently live in and sold it without notifying my wife. Considering it\u2019s solely my asset, I didn\u2019t see the need to inform her in advance. Plus, selling and buying property is always a stressful process.<\/p>\n
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\u2018On the day I finalised the sale, I told her that I had sold the house, and she was furious with me for not letting her know. She mentioned that she still needs a residence in this city and intends to come here frequently. I explained to her that I still have the apartment, which we can use whenever we need to be in the city, so there shouldn\u2019t be an issue.\u2019<\/p>\n
But that didn\u2019t exactly smooth everything over.<\/p>\n
\u2018She remains upset with me,\u2019 the poster goes on, \u2018claiming that I didn\u2019t treat her like a wife by not involving her in such an important decision. <\/p>\n
\u2018On the other hand, I believe I didn\u2019t leave her without an address in the city, and the house was always exclusively my asset, just as she has her own wealth. She argues that it\u2019s a completely different situation because it\u2019s the house we\u2019ve been living in, and we\u2019re moving in the next few days.\u2019<\/p>\n
The people in the comments were overwhelmingly on the wife\u2019s side over her spouse.<\/p>\n
One person wrote: \u2018It does seem that you didn\u2019t care what she thought about selling the place. You should\u2019ve involved her, even if you think it is \u201cyour asset.\u201d\u2018<\/p>\n
\u2018This is your wife,\u2019 wrote another, \u2018whom you live with and presumably have for years, and you basically just pulled the rug out from under her.\u2019<\/p>\n
Someone else commented: \u2018Cool it\u2019s your money, but damn is she your partner or what? <\/p>\n
\u2018If you can\u2019t talk through life decisions with your life partner and treat her like an equal why did you get married?\u2019<\/p>\n
Later, the poster added an edit that reads: \u2018I\u2019m impressed that there are over 3,000 responses. Just to clarify a few things: We have about 45 days to move out of the house, and we already had our move to the new house scheduled for the upcoming days.<\/p>\n
\u2018I thought she agreed to sell, as we both agreed that the house was too big and required a lot of maintenance. So selling it was always the next step.\u2019<\/p>\n
Indeed, having a good level of communication is vital if you want your relationship to work.<\/p>\n
Mig Bennett, relationship counsellor at\u00a0Therapy Finders previously told us: \u2018The biggest reason for marriage breakdown, which trumps all in my experience, is not listening to each other, not feeling heard by the other, and therefore the connection they once had is frayed to the point of permanent rupture.<\/p>\n
\u2018One of my favourite suggestions is that you can either be right, or you can be in a relationship.\u2019<\/p>\n