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<\/p>\nIf missionary is your go-to, try these nine ways to make sex more interesting\u2026\u00a0<\/p>\n
It\u2019s not unusual to experience a dry spell in the bedroom.<\/p>\n
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After all, sex can take a backseat when life gets busy, libidos dwindle or things just get, well, a bit stale.<\/p>\n
But if there\u2019s one thing that\u2019s really going to make sex feel like a chore, it\u2019s monotony.<\/p>\n
So if missionary \u2013 the man on top, the woman on her back \u2013 is your go-to, it might be time to up the ante.\u00a0<\/p>\n
While missionary is a popular sex position, it\u2019s often labelled as the most boring.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is really down to a lacklustre mindset, rather than the position itself,\u201d explains Emily King, sex therapist and sexologist at women\u2019s sexual wellness platform SheSpot.<\/p>\n \u201cThere is no \u2018bad\u2019 sex position, but there is the tendency to have obligatory, habitual sex that lacks curiosity and enthusiasm,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n But fear not, you don\u2019t need to contort your body into back-breaking positions.<\/p>\n After all, research by Lovehoney found that 45% of Brits say they don\u2019t have sex because they\u2019re too tired.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cMissionary is a favourite because of comfort, and rightly so,\u201d Emily says.<\/p>\n \u201cAn exciting sex life is not necessarily one that tests your flexibility and joints, but one that prioritises comfort. When we\u2019re relaxed, our bodies can access deeper levels of arousal.\u201d<\/p>\n Try these nine easy hacks to bring sexy back to the bedroom.<\/p>\n Adding a pillow under your hips tilts your pelvis into a position that allows for easier penetration and the possibility of hitting two tantalising spots.<\/p>\n \u201cIt makes the anterior wall of the vagina \u2013 the front towards the navel \u2013 more accessible during penetration with a toy, fingers or a penis,\u201d says Emily.<\/p>\n \u201cThere are two internal pleasure spots here: the G-spot and the A-spot.\u201d<\/p>\n The latter is located deeper, near the cervix. <\/p>\n Resting on a pillow also helps those with smaller penises who want deeper penetration and prevents neck pain when giving oral sex, as the neck doesn\u2019t need to be as strained to reach the vagina.<\/p>\n The Liberator Microfibre Sex Position Wedge, \u00a399.99, from Lovehoney, offers the optimal 27-degree angle of elevation for deeper penetration if regular bedroom pillows aren\u2019t cutting it.<\/p>\n Go deep with this move that can help increase your chances of orgasm.<\/p>\n \u201cWhile in missionary, wrap your legs around your partner\u2019s body,\u201d Emily explains.<\/p>\n \u201cThis gives you more control, as you are able to pull them deeper inside and move your body so your internal pleasure zones can be stimulated.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n A lazy lover\u2019s dream, try this twist on spooning.<\/p>\n Your partner enters from behind, while the two of you lie facing the same direction.<\/p>\n Then, twist so that you are lying on your back with your knees towards your chest, your partner still in the spooning position.<\/p>\n It\u2019s ultimate comfort \u2013 and the best view for your partner, who has access to your entire body.<\/p>\n \u201cThe physical closeness is primed for depth of emotional intimacy,\u201d says Emily.<\/p>\n \u201cAdd in soft, teasing nipple stimulation, clitoral stimulation and neck kissing, too.\u201d<\/p>\n There\u2019s no shame in reaching for the lube when you want to hurry things along.<\/p>\n Not only does it enhance your partner\u2019s experience, it also intensifies touch for you.<\/p>\n \u201cFor vaginal pleasure, use lubricant and add extra stimulation around the clitoris,\u201d says C\u00e9cile Gasnault, brand director at Smile Makers.<\/p>\n Try The Oh Collective Joy Jelly Tingling Water Based Lube, \u00a315, a pH-balanced formula that tingles for extra enjoyment.<\/p>\n Sex toy websites and shops can feel overwhelming.<\/p>\n So start with one of the basics, such as a bullet vibrator, and see how it elevates pleasure with minimal effort.<\/p>\n \u201cThere\u2019s no harm in using toys, particularly as they can make sex more enjoyable for both partners and can help trigger an orgasm,\u201d says Emily.<\/p>\n \u201cKeep toys close in a bedside table for easy access.\u201d<\/p>\n Vibrators are useful for those who struggle to orgasm with vaginal penetration alone.<\/p>\n What\u2019s more, C\u00e9cile says: \u201cStimulating the clitoris externally first to make it erect and create a tighter fit around the vagina can help you reach climax through vaginal stimulation.\u201d<\/p>\n Gazing into your partner\u2019s eyes is one of the most useful, yet underrated, ways to intensify sex.<\/p>\n \u201cEye contact is the number-one thing people mention when I ask what makes somebody great at flirting,\u201d says Alice Child, sex therapist and sexologist at SheSpot.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s a really powerful tool to build connection, playfulness and intimacy,\u201d adds Emily.<\/p>\n \u201cEye contact contributes to the building of anticipation of sexual energy and works particularly well if you sync your breathing, too.\u201d<\/p>\n It\u2019s not natural for everyone, though.<\/p>\n Suggest the idea to your partner in a non-sex situation.<\/p>\n Sit across from each other and hold each other\u2019s gaze for a minute or two.<\/p>\n It may feel awkward initially, but will feel more natural with practice, and in time, you\u2019ll be able to carry it into the bedroom.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cAnal pleasure can lead to some of the most incredible, orgasmic experiences in the human body,\u201d Alice says.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s filled with nerve endings, both externally and internally, so there is so much pleasure potential!\u201d It doesn\u2019t have to include penetration, though.<\/p>\n \u201cTo begin, think about experiencing anal touch in a deeply relaxed body,\u201d says Emily.<\/p>\n \u201cWork on deep breathing and slow, circular massage around the outer sphincter muscles. The anus can open when, and if, it feels like moving toward penetrative play.\u201d<\/p>\n There\u2019s another hot spot hidden on the posterior wall of the vagina, called the K-spot, which can respond to pressure both vaginally or anally.\u00a0<\/p>\n Sometimes we like to get the job done ourselves \u2013 and masturbation allows you to do that.<\/p>\n But letting your partner watch you self-pleasure will not only turn them on, but also help them learn how you like to be touched, and vice versa.<\/p>\n \u201cIt can be easier to show your partner, rather than try to explain what you need with words,\u201d says Alice.<\/p>\n \u201cThe watcher can still be very intimate and connected to the experience \u2013 for example, they can stroke your body and whisper in your ear how sexy you look.\u201d<\/p>\n Try the \u201cdragon\u201d position.<\/p>\n Lie on your front with a pillow under your hips.<\/p>\n Your partner rests on top of you, leaning on their hands either side of you.<\/p>\n \u201cAccessing the back of a woman\u2019s body in this more comfortable position means your partner can massage your lower back,\u201d says Emily.<\/p>\n![](\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ri-comp-full-nelson.jpg\")
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