“Monogamy is racist and a form of ownership,” stated Ahamefule Oluo, West’s husband, as he presented an ultimatum for an open marriage. This quote encapsulates the complexities explored in Lindy West’s newly published memoir, Adult Braces, which details her journey through marriage and polyamory.
Published two weeks ago, Adult Braces is West’s fourth book and follows her previous work, the essay collection Shrill, which became a cultural phenomenon. In this latest memoir, West navigates her evolving relationship with Oluo, who has recently begun using they/them pronouns, and their third partner, Roya Amirsoleymani.
West’s narrative reflects her personal experiences and the intricacies of her relationships, raising questions about the nature of consent and coercion in polyamorous arrangements. Critics on social media have labeled her situation as an example of “coercive polyamory,” igniting a heated debate among feminists and cultural commentators.
Despite the memoir’s intent to share her journey, it has met with mixed reactions. Some readers question whether West’s situation is a genuine exploration of polyamory or a desperate attempt to maintain her marriage. “What if he uses my ten dollars to print a sign to go harass people at the clinic?” West expressed, highlighting the potential ramifications of her narrative.
As the discussions surrounding Adult Braces continue, the full implications of West’s narrative on feminist movements remain unconfirmed. Details remain unconfirmed regarding the exact date of publication and the broader impact of her experiences.
